When giving baby up for adoption, you’ll have some options on how to go about it. Some adoptions are blind adoptions, where the birth parents don’t meet the adoptive parents. In this case, there might be little input as to who the adoptive parents will be, but usually the birth parents get to go through a list of potential couples and make a decision based on the cultural heritage, religious views, values, and occupations of the adoptive parents, though they will never meet them. In open adoptions, the birth parents have the opportunity to meet and interview potential parents (and families, if the adoptive parents already have other children), before making a decision.
Giving baby up for adoption to the right parents is of the utmost importance. Though you might have made the decision not to raise the child yourself, chances are it wasn’t because of indifference toward the child. You probably still want what you consider to be best for him or her. After all, that’s probably why you chose adoption in the first place. You must think about what’s important to you in terms of how your child is raised. Do you wish the child to be raised with certain moral or religious beliefs and values? Is it important to you that they be exposed to sports, the arts, or international cultures? Do you want the child to be raised in a traditional family, or one that is a little bit more unconventional? Do you want them to have siblings? All of these are things you must consider and talk to potential adoptive parents about. Keep in mind that these parents are prescreened by the adoption agency, so you don’t really have to worry about the basics, such as whether they are generally good people or are financially stable. You don’t have to spend too much time worrying about that when giving baby up for adoption. It’s the details of the child’s upbringing that you need to think about, and though interviewing potential parents will give you some insight into that, it’s best to go in with an idea of what you’re looking for.
Giving baby up for adoption is not an easy decision, but knowing that you have some say in how your child is raised should ease some of the anxiety. If you do your research and choose carefully, you’ll know your child is in good hands.
This guest post was written by Dorris Jaffe, on behalf of Adopt Help, helping you through the process of adoption. For more information on child adoption, you may also visit About.com.